The Internet has defended a father who kicked his sister out after bringing gluten-containing food into a gluten-free kitchen.
Posted on Reddit’s r/AmITheA** hole forum, a man under the anonymous username u/poorunfortunatgluten shared his story to get feedback from the “AITA” community. The viral post has over 7,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.
The original poster (OP) began his post by explaining that his daughter has severe celiac disease. Any cross-contamination could set him back and it took years to properly diagnose and treat him. The OP wrote that she is underweight and has severe anxiety about food and won’t eat if she feels unsafe.
OP’s house has two kitchens- a full kitchen upstairs and a kitchen in the basement. The kitchen has a strict gluten, dairy and seafood free only food rule while the basement kitchen has only foods with those ingredients.
Due to personal reasons, his sister and her children moved to OP. They live in basement rooms and are told about strict rules about kitchens upstairs. Less than a week after she moved in, OP found a box of pasta in the kitchen and repeated the rules to her.
A few weeks later, the OP’s daughter came to him scared by her sister making fried chicken in the upstairs kitchen. The sister apologized but complained that the kitchen in the basement was “too small.” To be safe, they threw away all used pans and utensils and deep cleaned the kitchen.
Now that the kitchen was no longer guaranteed to be 100 percent safe, her daughter returned to treatment. They are working to help her feel safe again, but the OP is giving her takeout meals from a local gluten-free restaurant.
But things escalated quickly.
“I get home, and my daughter is having the worst panic attack I’ve ever seen. My mom and sister were in the kitchen making a whole Sunday dinner. Spaghetti, mozzarella sticks, garlic bread, the works. I lost it. I’m done. They ruined my life. are doing and last threatened my daughter’s life, and I get it,” he wrote.
“I threw all the food out in the yard, and told my sister that if she cared one bit about her niece’s life, she could kick her out of my house. Now my mom is mad at me. My sister and her kids have ‘food allergies.’ Takes out when I’m weak but I don’t care. She can leave the kids here if she needs to, but I’m done with her. We have one rule . One,” he continued.
His wife agrees with him but believes that she should give him one last chance because her mother will not be able to take him in and she will have no other place.
Newsweek u/poorunfortunatgluten reached out for comment.
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What is celiac disease?
As defined by the Mayo Clinic, celiac disease is an immune response to eating something with gluten. Gluten is a protein found in wheat, barley and rye. Over time, eating gluten with celiac disease can damage the lining of the small intestine and prevent the body from absorbing certain nutrients. This type of damage can cause diarrhea, fatigue, weight loss, bloating and anemia. It can also lead to other serious complications.
Some foods that a person with celiac disease should avoid — unless a doctor says otherwise — include beer, bread, many types of candy, cakes, pies, cereal, cookies, pasta, oats, most salad dressings and many soups, per Healthline.com.
A doctor will diagnose a person with celiac disease by looking at the family and medical history. They can also diagnose someone with blood tests and biopsies of the skin and small intestine, according to the National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Diseases.
“[Not the a**hole]. He can pick a direction and f**k off in it. How dare he stay in your house and risk your child’s health,” u/CrystalQueen3000 said, receiving over 15,000 upvotes for their comment.
“[Not the a**hole]. Your daughter has severe allergies and you have told this to your sister who doesn’t really understand the consequences of her actions. The first time, well, she forgot. Second time is fine… I guess but the kitchen being too small is a poor excuse. The third time she cooks a whole gluten-heavy dinner with dairy; You are within your rights to lose it and throw them out. Three strikes and your out. It’s your house, your rules. If they can’t follow them they can find somewhere to live,” u/DesignerAsh_ wrote.
U/TinyRascalSaurus said, “[Not the a**hole]. If a gluten intolerant person eats anything that contains it, it can permanently damage their intestines. Even trace amounts can cause harm. Your sister was putting your daughter at risk of medical harm. He knew the rules. He knew your daughter’s safety was in danger. She chose to ignore the rules over and over again anyway. “
“[Not the a**hole], you clearly explained the situation and she chose to ignore it, in the latter instance quite badly. He should understand that your family is absolutely number 1, and for non-trivial reasons. She’s in a much worse position right now, but she’s a big girl now, and consequences arise from your actions. There has to be a point where you just say, ‘Okay, it’s done – we’re done here,'” commented u/bobbypet.